
Stories, science and secrets from the world’s brightest thought-leaders. Behavioral Grooves is the podcast that satisfies your curiosity of why we do what we do. Explanations of human behavior that will improve your relationships, your wellbeing, and your organization by helping you find your groove.
Episodes

Sunday Dec 03, 2023
Rethinking Behavioral Science | Adam Mastroianni
Sunday Dec 03, 2023
Sunday Dec 03, 2023
While Tim finds himself confined to a plane, Kurt engages in a captivating one-on-one session with researcher Adam Mastroianni. Together, they delve into the intriguing world of behavioral science, aiming to unveil the concealed truths behind the notorious Big Dentist conspiracy urging everyone to floss.
However, the episode takes an unexpected turn as Kurt and Adam embark on a thought-provoking exploration of the past, present, and future of behavioral science. From a history tainted with fraudulent studies to a present that seems tepid in terms of groundbreaking discoveries, the duo contemplates what lies ahead. Do we dare to take risks, or is maintaining the status quo the safer route? Moreover, does the current academic system truly foster risk-taking?
Join us for a conversation that challenges assumptions, sparks innovation, and confronts the stigma surrounding the belief that flossing is the sole path to dental health. Tune in as we navigate the future of behavioral science, encouraging a fresh perspective on academia and the pursuit of knowledge.
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves
Topics
(4:09) Intro and Speed Round
(8:19) When should we stop talking?
(11:47) Does the fact that a study was found fraudulent matter?
(16:18) Are we out of groundbreaking discoveries?
(22:03) The limitations in current research and the need for a paradigm shift
(27:28) Shifting mindset in scientific research
(36:39) Flossing and the importance of context
(48:35) Research insights and desert island music
(52:19) Grooving session: Science, academia, and the importance of new ideas
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves
Links
Experimental History (Blog) https://experimentalhistory.wordpress.com/
"Do Conversations End When People Want Them To?" https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0956797617749596
The Cochrane Collaboration Meta-analysis on Flossing https://www.cochrane.org/CD011146/ORAL_flossing-reduce-gingivitis-and-plaque
Rory Sutherland's Perspective on Choice https://www.ted.com/talks/rory_sutherland_life_lessons_from_an_ad_man/transcript
Musical Links
Baz Luhrmann "Everybody's Free to Wear Sunscreen" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI
They Might Be Giants "Hot Dog!" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NoavHX75s_E
Talking Heads "Psycho Killer" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eauZzwt8Ci8

Sunday Nov 26, 2023
Navigating Societal Rifts | Michèle Lamont
Sunday Nov 26, 2023
Sunday Nov 26, 2023
Tensions around the dinner table? Trouble finding common ground with friends and family? Renowned sociologist Michèle Lamont joins Tim and Kurt to unravel why the world seems more polarized than ever.
In this episode, Lamont delves into pressing societal issues, from tribalism to media polarization, offering expert insights and defining key terms with historical context. She explores generational shifts in perspectives on recognition and identity, asking how we can bridge divides between different worldviews.
Beyond analysis, Lamont inspires change, discussing the transformative power of reframing narratives to cultivate hope. Join us for a conversation challenging stereotypes, and promoting a society where everyone feels valued. Kurt and Tim end the episode with a Grooving Session where they encourage us to strengthen the recognition of our shared humanity and invite listeners to be part of the change. Tune in for a fresh perspective on navigating a divided world.
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves
Topics
(03:22) Michèle Lamont intro and Speed Round
(08:08) Bridging generational divides
(20:49) Changing hearts and minds to address inequality
(26:36) Countering negative narratives
(36:59) Generational differences in identity and inclusion
(41:24) Race, identity, and mental health
(47:23) Grooving session: Overcoming polarization
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves
Links
Michelle’s Book: Seeing Others
Monbiot, George, “Neoliberalism – the ideology at the root of all our problems,” The Guardian, 15 April 2016. Article
Peter Harvey research and article: How Schools Teach Children about their Social Station
Jean Twenge The Future of Generational Differences
National Domestic Workers Alliance
Musical Links
The Doors “Break on Through (To The Other Side)”
Patti Smith “Because the Night”

Sunday Nov 19, 2023
Evolving Minds: A Conversation on Attention Spans | Gloria Mark PhD
Sunday Nov 19, 2023
Sunday Nov 19, 2023
Ever feel your attention… drifting? Want to get better at being present? Join Kurt and Tim as they delve into the world of shrinking attention spans alongside researcher Gloria Mark. Uncover the eye-opening revelations from Mark's research, highlighting a significant decrease in attention spans within just a few short years.
Explore the intricate ways in which the digital world and screen time impact our ability to focus, all while discovering the empowering idea that we possess agency over our attention. Gloria Mark shares invaluable tips for enhancing concentration, including insights into understanding your natural rhythms, setting goals, and connecting with nature.
In this attention-grabbing episode, witness how our brains and behavior are evolving in today's increasingly distracting world. Gain a deeper understanding of the intricate relationship between technology, attention spans, and individual agency. It's a journey into the evolving landscape of our minds and behaviors, offering practical tips to thrive in an era where distraction seems inevitable.
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves
Topics
(5:33) Intro and speed round
(8:31) Myths and facts about attention span
(12:54) Attention as a resource
(19:11) Attention span, flow, and media consumption
(31:22) Staying focused and avoiding distractions
(37:25) Attention, free will, and musical rhythm
(45:07) Desert Island music
(52:20) Grooving session - finding your groove through nature and productivity
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves
Links
Gloria’s Book - https://www.harpercollins.com/products/attention-span-gloria-mark?variant=40346590117922
Tim Urban: Inside the mind of a procrastinator - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=arj7oStGLkU
Wait But Why - https://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html
Nicholas Car "The Shallows" - https://www.nicholascarr.com/?page_id=16
Barry Lazarowitz (drummer): https://www.allmusic.com/artist/barry-lazarowitz-mn0002291879/credits
Musical Links
Echo and the Bunnymen “People are Strange” (cover) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eTviNc52igI
Roger Daltry “Don’t Let the Sun Go Down on Me” (cover) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLQ6rpL_QLo
Sarah Vaughan “Broken Hearted Melody” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UOWJC-fVSAI
Samara Joy “Guess Who I Saw Today” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X03lvK7qoco

Sunday Nov 12, 2023
The Power of Brevity | Todd Rogers
Sunday Nov 12, 2023
Sunday Nov 12, 2023
Does everybody skim? Todd Rogers, co-author of “Writing for Busy Readers” joins Kurt and Tim to discuss just that. In this insightful episode, Todd shares principles and rules that will transform your written communication skills. Join the conversation as Todd challenges the traditional notions of taste and style in writing, emphasizing the power of concise and evidence-backed strategies for effective communication in the 21st century.
Discover the art of "less is more" as Todd shares practical steps and easy-to-follow techniques to overcome common challenges in conveying crucial information. Gain profound insights into the writer's responsibility to readers and navigate the dynamic landscape of social media communication. Todd's expertise provides a roadmap for achieving your communication goals with impact and precision.
During their grooving session Kurt and Tim exploring the importance of mapping information out before you write and offer helpful tips and tricks they’ve used to achieve success in their written communication over the years. Whether you're drafting corporate emails or engaging in casual conversations, this episode is a must-listen, providing practical guidance to elevate your communication skills and thrive in a world where brevity is key. Tune in and revolutionize the way you convey information in today's fast-paced environment!
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves
Topics
(4:34) Welcome and Speed Round
(6:53) Does everybody skim?
(9:14) Writing for busy readers
(14:36) Writing effectively
(19:26) The new rules of writing
(29:20) Focusing on the reader’s perspective
(40:03) Writing for social media and user engagement
(46:47) Desert Island Music
(48:40) Grooving session: Tips for improving communication
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves
Links
Writing for Busy Readers: https://writingforbusyreaders.com/
The Plain Writing Act of 2010: https://www.govinfo.gov/content/pkg/PLAW-111publ274/pdf/PLAW-111publ274.pdf
Space Between Words: The Origins of Silent Reading: https://books.google.ca/books/about/Space_Between_Words.html?id=w3vZaFoaa3EC
Musical Links
Beyonce (Renaissance) https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLHFeMk_LSwG5VVTbOVIutGbA3PsGP0NPO&si=27uBQ3pOLw3WTUrP
Taylor Swift (Teardrops on My Guitar) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xKCek6_dB0M
The Beatles (Come Together) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=45cYwDMibGo

Sunday Nov 05, 2023
Unlocking the Power of Effective Communication | Matt Abrahams
Sunday Nov 05, 2023
Sunday Nov 05, 2023
Communication is a vital skill we all use, but do we truly understand its profound impact on our lives? Join Kurt and Tim as they engage in a captivating conversation with communication expert Matt Abrahams. Matt, an accomplished author, educator, and co-host of "Think Fast, Talk Smart," takes us on a journey into the heart of effective communication.
Discover the secrets to spontaneous speaking and hone your communication skills with practical insights and actionable steps. From connecting with your audience to creating the best toasts at parties, this episode is a masterclass in the art of communication. Matt reveals the magic of active listening and the importance of paraphrasing to strengthen your relationships.
Make anxiety your ally as you prepare for public speaking and various communication scenarios. With a wealth of global experience, Matt guides us through negotiation, persuasion, and even the role of creativity in communication.
During their Grooving Session, Kurt and Tim talk about their own personal experiences with public speaking and communication, sharing anecdotes and advice from their own victories and defeats. Whether you’re delivering a keynote presentation or sharing a story with friends, this episode will offer you vital tips towards unlocking your full communication potential!
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves
Topics
(2:39) Welcome and speed round questions
(6:24) Matt’s Book and the fear of public speaking
(9:51) Overcoming the fear of public speaking and roadblocks
(15:05) Maximizing Mediocrity?
(18:50) Giving better toasts
(23:53) The M&M’s of Public Speaking
(30:24) Matt’s Podcast
(37:20) Chopin, Jazz, and off-the-cuff conversation
(42:43) Desert Island Music
(46:17) Grooving Session with Kurt and Tim on Public Speaking
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves
Links
Matt Abrahams: https://mattabrahams.com/
Think Faster, Talk Smarter: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Think-Faster-Talk-Smarter/Matt-Abrahams/9781668010303
Think Fast, Talk Smart: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/think-fast-talk-smart-communication-techniques/id1494989268
Matt Abrahams and Alia Crum: https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/insights/mindset-matters-how-embrace-benefits-stress
Speaking Up Without Freaking Out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XIXvKKEQQJo
Musical Links
Rodrigo y Gabriela "Hanuman": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ENBX_v1Po1Y
Lynyrd Skynyrd "Free Bird": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0LwcvjNJTuM
ACDC "Thunderstruck": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v2AC41dglnM

Sunday Oct 29, 2023
Why Sleep Is Vital for Academic Success | David Creswell PhD
Sunday Oct 29, 2023
Sunday Oct 29, 2023
We all know we need a good night’s sleep but sleep researcher, David Creswell PhD has studied how our performance is actually affected by sleep. He has even found a predictive correlation between student’s college GPA scores and their sleep duration.
David Creswell is a professor of psychology at Carnegie Mellon University and has published numerous studies on mindfulness-based interventions and their impact on well-being. He is a prominent researcher specializing in health psychology, mindfulness meditation, and stress management.
Earlier this year David co-authored a paper in Psychological and Cognitive Sciences called, “Nightly sleep duration predicts grade point average in the first year of college” which caught our attention. The research measures performance metrics among students who wore Fitbits while sleeping. The findings suggest getting less than 6 hours of sleep may be a threshold where sleep shifts from helpful to harmful.
To wrap up the conversation, hosts Kurt and Tim discuss the topic of sleep in their Grooving Session. They discuss their very different sleep patterns and what Kurt has done to help improve his insomnia.
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves
Topics
(4:22) Welcome and speed round questions.
(5:50) David’s research on sleep.
(12:14) What about daytime napping?
(15:42) The difference between sleeping more or less than 6 hours per night.
(17:16) Sleep duration and academic success in college students.
(22:16) How to avoid false positives in research.
(30:09) Does David listen to music while he sleeps?
(33:34) Grooving Session with Kurt and Tim on sleep.
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves
Links
Dr David Creswell PhD: https://www.cmu.edu/dietrich/psychology/directory/core-training-faculty/creswell-david.html
The Health and Human Performance Lab: https://www.healthandhumanperformancelab.com/
Equa App: https://equahealth.io/about-us/
Creswell, et. al. (Jan 2023), “Nightly sleep duration predicts grade point average in the first year of college” Psychological and Cognitive Sciences: https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.2209123120
Ruchir Sera - Episode 26, Resonea app and the Behavioral Effects of Sleep: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/ruchir-sehra-on-the-behavioral-effects-of-sleep/
American Academy of Sleep Medicine: https://aasm.org/
Musical Links
Taylor Swift “Anti-Hero”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1kbLwvqugk
Don Ho “Tiny Bubbles”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=muEFD_odvUg
The Beatles “Yer Blues” from The White Album: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JeFwaWFTGYU

Sunday Oct 22, 2023
Bridging Behavioral Science Concepts and Applications | Connor Joyce
Sunday Oct 22, 2023
Sunday Oct 22, 2023
Connect behavioral science theory and research to practical applications. Connor Joyce founded the Applied Behavioral Science Association and he shares his perspectives on different behavioral science roles.
This podcast episode features Connor Joyce discussing his career journey and involvement with the Applied Behavioral Science Association (ABSA). Connor began his career as a human capital analyst at Deloitte, where he was first exposed to behavioral science. He then earned a Master's degree in behavioral science from the University of Pennsylvania.
After graduating, Connor struggled to find career paths for applied behavioral scientists. He started the Behavioral Insights Professional Society to address this issue and connect resources. While it had initial success, Connor realized he lacked strategic experience. He then partnered with the Behavioral Science & Policy Association and others to form Project Nexus, which eventually became ABSA.
ABSA aims to improve the world by promoting education and collaboration across expertise levels in behavioral science. Connor described two main categories - experts who specialize in behavioral science applications, and novices/users who incorporate behavioral science into other roles like design or marketing. ABSA provides resources like standards and job descriptions to support both groups.
The conversation also explores similarities and differences between behavioral science, user experience design, data science, and marketing insights. Connor noted blurring lines between these fields in technology companies, where they are all forms of applied research. Finally, Connor discusses how generative AI could democratize user research by empowering more people to conduct basic studies.
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves
Topics
(3:47) Welcome and speed round questions.
(9:21) What exactly is behavioral science?
(15:45) Creating a professional society for behavioral insights.
(25:09) Behavioral science, user design, and data science.
(33:25) Connor’s musical preferences.
(40:08) Grooving Session with Kurt and Tim.
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves
Links
Connor Joyce: https://www.connectconnor.com/
Applied Behavioral Science Association (ABSA): https://www.behavioralscience.org/
Behavioral Design Hub: https://medium.com/behavior-design-hub/behavioral-science-as-a-specialization-ea64aeb015f7
IIEX North America: https://events.greenbook.org/iiex-north-america
GAABS: https://gaabs.org/
Diversifi: https://www.diversifiglobal.com/
Musical Links
Alesso “Words”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zIJEOEZdLzE
Tiesto “Lay Low”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EfWmWlW2PvM
![The 5 Healthy Brain Habits Of A Neuroscientist | Dr Daniel Almeida [Republish]](https://pbcdn1.podbean.com/imglogo/ep-logo/pbblog2137480/Daniel_Almeida_on_Behavioral_Grooves_podcast6lkzv_300x300.jpg)
Sunday Oct 15, 2023
Sunday Oct 15, 2023
What life habits keep our brain healthy? How does our mind respond to trauma? And why does the way we talk about suicide and mental health make such a difference to those who are struggling? We discuss all these topics with neuroscience researcher Dr Daniel Almeida.
World Mental Health Day has recently shed a spotlight on our psychological wellbeing. So we decided to republish the sound mental health advice we learnt from our guest Dr Daniel Almeida from episode 255 in October 2021.
Daniel has been named one of Forbes 30 under 30 in science. His incredible work as a neuroscience researcher in the Douglas Research Centre at McGill University in Montreal, Canada, involves psychological autopsies to understand the molecular impacts of severe childhood abuse on the brains of individuals who died by suicide.
As you can imagine, this episode is full of difficult yet important topics. But what struck us most about Daniel was how upbeat and positive he is about his work and the difference it’s making to people’s lives. Daniel kindly shares his top 5 healthy brain habits that we can all adopt to improve our mental wellbeing.
If you, or someone you know needs help with their mental health, please use one of the resources in the links below.
Mental Health Support
Suicide Prevention Lifeline (US):https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
American Foundation for Suicide Prevention: https://afsp.org/suicide-prevention-resources
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration: National Helpline (US): 1-800-662-HELP (4357). SAMHSA’s National Helpline is a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders. https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline
The Canada Suicide Prevention Service: https://www.crisisservicescanada.ca/en/
Samaritans (UK): https://www.samaritans.org/
United for Global Mental Health (List of support networks around the world): https://unitedgmh.org/mental-health-support
For those looking for information on how to support others:
National Institute of Mental Health: https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/suicide-prevention
For the general public looking to be trained in mental health first aid and/or suicide prevention:
Living Works (US): https://bit.ly/3oKgsaS
Mental Health First Aid Canada: https://mhfa.ca/
Topics
(6:29) Speed round.
(10:14) Does talking about suicide help?
(14:15) Why it’s very important to talk about “dying by suicide” instead of “committing suicide”.
(16:17) About Daniel’s work as a neuroscientist.
(17:47) What are the links between childhood trauma and suicide?
(25:16) What age are children most sensitive to the effects of trauma?
(31:19) How the type of trauma experienced by a child matters.
(33:36) How resilience is more like a sword than a shield.
(35:29) What are the 5 best brain health habits?
(41:57) What is a brain bank and how are psychological autopsies used?
(44:30) What music isn’t noise pollution for Daniel?
(46:24) Music and the brain.
(48:13) Grooving Session with Kurt and Tim; how to apply Daniel’s work to your life.
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves
Links
World Mental Health Day: https://www.who.int/campaigns/world-mental-health-day
Leading Human™ Workbook and Playbook: https://www.behavioralgrooves-store.com/products/copy-of-the-leading-human-playbook-workbook-package
Leading Human™, Free Whitepaper Download: https://www.behavioralgrooves-store.com/collections/leading-human/products/human-centered-workplace-checklist
Episode 220: How Do You Become Influential? Jon Levy Reveals His Surprising Secrets: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/how-to-be-influential-jon-levy/
Dr Brenda Mildner – Mother of Psychological worked on bilateral hypocantim removal: https://www.mcgill.ca/neuro/about/brenda-milner
Donald Hebb: https://can-acn.org/donald-olding-hebb/#:~:text=Donald%20Hebb%20(1904%2D1985),which%20was%20published%20in%201949.
“Molecular impacts of childhood abuse on the human brain” Ibrahim, P.; Almeida, D.; Nagy, C.; Turecki, G. (2021): https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352289521000515?via%3Dihub
“A Slice of the Suicidal Brain: What Have Postmortem Molecular Studies Taught Us?” Almeida, D. and Turecki, G. (2016): https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27671915/
“What Happened to You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing”, by Oprah Winfrey and Bruce Perry: https://amzn.to/3lF7EQ7
Brain structure of dancers and musicians https://www.falishakarpati.com/bio
Support Behavioral Grooves by donating on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/behavioralgrooves
Musical Links
Gladys Knight & The Pips “Midnight Train to Georgia”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A0F9lh8TiSM&ab_channel=GladysKnightTPVEVO
Whitney Houston “I Will Always Love You”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3JWTaaS7LdU
The Supremes “Where Did Our Love Go”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qTBmgAOO0Nw
Stevie Wonder “As”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GYQfWJNWe3I
Marconi Union - Weightless Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qYnA9wWFHLI&t=6831s

Monday Oct 09, 2023
Monday Oct 09, 2023
Why is work so difficult for so many of us? Why are we not connected to the organization in ways to help us advance our careers and garner the best assignments?
Dr. Michelle P. King is a researcher and author who answers these questions and more. She joined us to discuss strategies from her book, “How Work Works: The Subtle Science of Getting Ahead Without Losing Yourself.”
Michelle is a globally recognized expert on inequality and organizational culture. Based on over a decade’s worth of research, She believes that we need to learn how workplaces work, so we can make them work for everyone.
She is the host of a popular podcast called The Fix. “How Work Works: The Subtle Science of Getting Ahead Without Losing Yourself,” is her second book and will be released internationally on October 10, 2023.
Most importantly, in this episode, we talk about the importance of self-awareness, learning how to read the air, and the creation of informal networks to positively influence your career. We also discuss ways to find a sense of belonging and inclusion that can lead to greater satisfaction at work and a better career.
And in our grooving session, we emphasize how increasing your self-awareness can be beneficial to you at any time during your career. During our music discussion, we cover the importance of Leonard Cohen’s mastery of lyrics as a poet and the wealth of great music that comes from the jazz tradition.
Topics
(8:39) Career advancement and informal networking in the workplace.
(11:19) Informal networks at work and their impact on job placement.
(17:37) Workplace dynamics and collaboration.
(24:18) Self-awareness and informal communication in the workplace.
(27:17) Self-awareness, ambiguity, and workplace performance.
(33:22) Workplace communication and social skills.
(36:42) Workplace belonging, diversity, and inclusion.
(42:22) Workplace meaning and career advancement.
(47:17) Setting sails for life and work.
(51:58) Reading the air in workplace communication.
(1:00:40) The potential consequences of asking for things.
(1:01:56) Emotional intelligence in the workplace.
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves
Musical Links
Leonard Cohen “Bird on A Wire”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BGvwvxA83Cs
Oscar Peterson (1976) improvisational piano: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lBP3Il85bYA

Monday Oct 02, 2023
Monday Oct 02, 2023
“Do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life.” Are you tired of that ditty? We are. How are you supposed to know what you love if we don’t 100% know who we are?
“Know thyself” is a maxim that has been central to Western civilization for the last 2500 years. It has been pervasive in philosophy over the ages and more recently in psychology. Who are we? Who am I? These questions blend nicely with understanding why we do what we do, a foundational question in behavioral science. And it is with this curiosity that cohosts Kurt Nelson, PhD and Tim Houlihan delve into the mysteries of who we think we are.
More importantly, this episode is interested in honest self-discovery: the answer to the question: who am I? To help you answer that, we humbly submit a series of questions and reflections for your consideration, for the purpose of having a clearer sense of who I am. (At least at the moment.)
We use three sets of reflections for you to consider:
- Identify where in your life you find energy, joy, and satisfaction. These questions and reflections allow us to target the ideals and desires we have in our lives. These are enhancers.
- Identify what aspects of our lives are not going the way we want them to. These questions help us clarify what is not working for us. These are detractors.
- Identify what requirements we have to live in this world. In others, what obligations, relationships, and financial requirements, among other things, are commitments we must live by? These are necessities.
We also talk about the nature of memories, the present moment, and ways our future aspirations influence who we are. We even discuss Dr. Bryan Lowery’s idea that who we are is largely influenced by the people around us. (Talk about mind-bending!)
By reflecting on these questions and our general discussion, we hope that Groovers can discover a clearer picture of who you are and that these reflections will lead you to a more perfect version of knowing thyself, as Socrates might say.
© 2023 Behavioral Grooves, LLC
Links
Behavioral Grooves Website: www.behavioralgrooves.com
Ethan Hawke TED Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/ethan_hawke_give_yourself_permission_to_be_creative?language=en
Bhagavad Gita: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bhagavad_Gita
Hal Hershfield Episode 369: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/your-future-self-hal-hershfield/
Brené Brown: https://brenebrown.com/
Brian Lowery Episode 312: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/meaning-in-life-brian-lowery/
Self-Serving Bias: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-serving_bias
Fundamental Attribution Error: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fundamental_attribution_error
Motivated Reasoning: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Motivated_reasoning
Confirmation Bias: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Confirmation_bias
Intention-Action Gap: https://thedecisionlab.com/reference-guide/psychology/intention-action-gap
Know Thyself Questions:
Finding Energy and Satisfaction Questions (Enhancers: What You Love To Do)
- What activities or experiences make me feel the most fulfilled and content?
- When do I feel the most authentic and genuine?
- What aspects of life are non-negotiable for me?
- What principles am I unwilling to compromise?
- What kind of person do I want to be remembered?
- What causes or issues do I feel most passionate about?
- What qualities do I admire most in others?
- What decisions or situations have made me feel proud or satisfied with myself?
- What kind of person do I want to be remembered as?
Avoiding Negative Emotion Questions (Detractors: What You Hate To Do)
- What has been my lowest point in the past 5 years?
- What situations or people drain my energy and leave me feeling exhausted?
- What triggers my negative emotions such as anger, sadness, or anxiety?
- Where do I feel regret for things I’ve done or for things I haven’t done?
- What do I stress over the most?
- What negative self-talk or inner critic do I struggle with?
- What are some common sources of conflict or tension in my relationships?
- What do I fear?
- What decisions or situations have made me feel guilty or uncomfortable?
Living in this World Questions (Necessities: What You Have To Do)
- Am I honoring your relationship?
- Do I have what I need to provide for my basic necessities?
- Where do I compromise to ensure that I have positive relationships?
- Am I being responsible?
- Am I honoring my commitments to others, to my job, and to other aspects of my life?
- What are the pressures that the world places upon me?
Your responses and reflections should be as honest and truthful as possible. Try your best to not be tainted by your biases. A clearer picture will help you identify the key areas that drive you.
Examine your self through the lens of what you love to do, what you hate to do, and what you have to do.
Write out a 7-word value statement that defines who you are at the core.
Topics
(0:07) Understanding “Know Thyself” through history.
(5:00) Personal growth throughout history.
(11:28) Understanding one's true identity.
(19:33) Understanding one's biases.
(25:03) Self-awareness and personal growth.
(31:50) Finding your groove.
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